Hi, This is my first post on this forum and am looking for advice; My Dad has had Alzheimers for about four years now, he's slowly deteriorating but still manages to live alone with a good care package in place. He has now been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer on the side of his face and been given 9 months without surgery. The surgery has no guarantees and may well cause him more strife than good as explained. It's a 14 hour operation. On getting him home from the hospital I spoke to him at length about his condition, with the usual difficulty of not knowing how much he really understood. He was absolutely adamant that he didn't want surgery. I'm really struggling with it all. Given all the evidence and information, had it been me, I'd have made the same decision. He's now facing a very uncertain few months with palliative care being the way forward. I guess I want to know if other people have been in this position and what advice they would offer? Getting a straight answer from him on anything is nigh on impossible these days and I feel the burden of responsibility of doing the best for him is weighty. As I said, any advice greatly appreciated.