I've never been on any forums to date but have a very difficult situation currently, My mother has had dementia for 5+ years but my father has been very good at hiding the goings on, despite this I have been helping with cleaning and taking mum out to give dad a break over the past 3 years. Now Dad has been in hospital for 6 weeks and has been really poorly it's shown me and my siblings how bad she has become, the aggression I have experienced has been pretty bad, kicking, hitting, swearing and demanding me out of her house. She will not accept any help or care outside of the family members which is putting a massive strain on us all trying to hold down full time jobs and families of our own. We finally managed to get a doctor in who prescribed some medication (despite mum telling him he looked like a nice man but get out of my house!), this has reduced the aggressive episodes but the stubborn part is just as bad, holding doors closed etc. She can barely dress herself and if left for more than an hour demands to know where everyone has been even if you've been in earlier. Not sure that anyone can really help but to write it down for people in similar circumstances helps a bit.