Hi everyone,
My Dad has vascular dementia and a history of heart trouble. He had a triple heart by-pass approx 20 years ago. Due to his heart history it's been advised not to take medication for his dementia as there is a strong chance it will interfere with his heart meds.
Dad is a keen drinker, during the worst periods he will drink 5-6 days per week, far more than recommended. The effect of alcohol makes his dementia seem doubly worse (slurring of speech, unable to hold attention in a conversation, words muddled up in a sentence). His consultant has also said that while he is drinking there is little they can do to help him - he needs to help himself. (He has been offered help at home and clubs to joining but has refused). Dad doesn't really seem to care and continues to drink. He has been signed off at the hospital so now he's not on their radar.
Does anybody else tackle the issue of alcohol with dementia? I know it is ultimately his life (and is is a grown man) but I get so angry with him for drinking and I am the one who has to pick up the pieces afterwards. He can't see that it makes him so much worse. It effects my life as well as his. People have said to me maybe is is drinking to block everything out (I don't think he has truly accepted what is happening to him).
On the days when Dad hasn't had a drink he seems like my old Dad, when he's been drinking I have little patience with him (I don't mean to sound horrible, I do alot fro my Dad and love him - that's why it upsets me!)
Thanks
Miss A
My Dad has vascular dementia and a history of heart trouble. He had a triple heart by-pass approx 20 years ago. Due to his heart history it's been advised not to take medication for his dementia as there is a strong chance it will interfere with his heart meds.
Dad is a keen drinker, during the worst periods he will drink 5-6 days per week, far more than recommended. The effect of alcohol makes his dementia seem doubly worse (slurring of speech, unable to hold attention in a conversation, words muddled up in a sentence). His consultant has also said that while he is drinking there is little they can do to help him - he needs to help himself. (He has been offered help at home and clubs to joining but has refused). Dad doesn't really seem to care and continues to drink. He has been signed off at the hospital so now he's not on their radar.
Does anybody else tackle the issue of alcohol with dementia? I know it is ultimately his life (and is is a grown man) but I get so angry with him for drinking and I am the one who has to pick up the pieces afterwards. He can't see that it makes him so much worse. It effects my life as well as his. People have said to me maybe is is drinking to block everything out (I don't think he has truly accepted what is happening to him).
On the days when Dad hasn't had a drink he seems like my old Dad, when he's been drinking I have little patience with him (I don't mean to sound horrible, I do alot fro my Dad and love him - that's why it upsets me!)
Thanks
Miss A