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that's the problem it's freely available and if I don't buy it he willthe problem is that if they dont want to be helped then no-one can help them. with my son, they treated the anxiety which was being created or him self-medicating with the drink for. then they weaned him off it and with the help of his partner he gradually came down. before that he was on a course of self- destruction, in trouble all the time, no pride. its legal and freely available so how do they learn that it took whole swathes of his life over where he didnt remember where hed been. i dont think it is taking as seriously as smoking.
I have been referred for counselling with mind so I could ask them then.Have you contacted Mind or Alcoholics Anonymous? I wonder if they might have some suggestions about how you could get help?
That is very helpful shedrech.
Bless him. I am so sorry.My dad passed away 2 years ago @Long journey ahead but he spent his last few weeks in a care home where he was well looked after. He died suddenly (as he wished) but would have stayed there until the end anyway (he was 90yrs old).
I hope you find a way of getting your OH the help he needs. For my dad sectioning while he was in hospital was what he needed but I did have to fight his corner, he said he wanted to go home but I knew he wasn’t safe and wasn’t prepared to let that happen and dad didn’t recognise his own home by this time.
Be prepared to dig your heels in!
I am not sure that you would ever be able to explain to him that if he doesnt stop drinking he will get worse and maybe die. You are trying to use logic and reasoning which dementia doesnt do very well at all. He may not believe you, say he doesnt care, or perhaps agree in the moment, but then deny he ever said it. You may have to just do things and present it to him as a done deal.I am up for a battle if it means helping him understand that if he doesn't stop drinking he will become much worse or even die.
I agree I cannot control his actions.I have an ex husband who is an alcoholic . It was a nightmare marriage especially when the children were young. I divorced him when the youngest was 6.
The thing I learnt is you cannot help someone who doesn’t want it. They have to want it..It sounds like he is not there .But I didn’t buy the alcohol for him(he usually went to the pub and then bought more home). He would never eat much. Now only weighs 7/12 stone. If the doctor says he has capacity there is not much you can do except wait for a crisis..You can only be responsible for your actions and responses . He his. Sorry if this is sounding harsh . It is not meant to.
Would this be of any interest?What a day yesterday trying to get him to the hospital for an ultrasound on his heart. Waiting game now for results. Checking for cardiomyopathy. Does anybody know the treatment for this condition please?
That's really helpful thank you. I can't see him stopping drinking so depends how bad it is.Would this be of any interest?
Alcoholic cardiomyopathy is a form of heart disease caused by alcohol abuse. Learn about its symptoms, causes, diagnosis, and treatment.www.healthline.com