Mum was diagnosed with AD in 2012. In July she had a serious medical condition and has been in hospital for 10 weeks. Her medical condition is improved but she's now bedbound, doubly incontinent, unable to feed herself and her dementia has deepened. Now the hospital want her out and we find we have a full on disagreement with the Discharge Team on process.
We scrutinised 13 Nursing Homes (NH) mostly suggested by Social Workers, shortlisted three, visited these armed with our selection criteria – including helpful comments from here. None of the three we selected had vacancies however our chosen NH advised vacancies arise rapidly at present, and agreed we are a priority (no waiting list - its F-C-F-S). They expect vacancies soon and invited us to call back every day. Of course vacancies are never guaranteed but the hospital are unwilling to give us any grace period. To begin the search again would take a long time.
Has anyone else experienced a brutal approach from a Hospital Discharge Team? I thought we were doing well to have selected a NH just one week after discharge was approved, but the Hospital are being brutal and rather bullying. They are behaving as if we have been bed-blocking for months in fact for most of her stay they did not think Mum would live and it is just three weeks since I discussed end-of-life care with my Mum’s doctor, and whether I could be contacted any time day or night.
The bottom line is - can a Hospital Discharge Team force us to accept a NH of their choice or can we hold out for the NH of our choice? Does anyone have any experience of this? I hold LPA for my Mum's Health & Welfare.
We scrutinised 13 Nursing Homes (NH) mostly suggested by Social Workers, shortlisted three, visited these armed with our selection criteria – including helpful comments from here. None of the three we selected had vacancies however our chosen NH advised vacancies arise rapidly at present, and agreed we are a priority (no waiting list - its F-C-F-S). They expect vacancies soon and invited us to call back every day. Of course vacancies are never guaranteed but the hospital are unwilling to give us any grace period. To begin the search again would take a long time.
Has anyone else experienced a brutal approach from a Hospital Discharge Team? I thought we were doing well to have selected a NH just one week after discharge was approved, but the Hospital are being brutal and rather bullying. They are behaving as if we have been bed-blocking for months in fact for most of her stay they did not think Mum would live and it is just three weeks since I discussed end-of-life care with my Mum’s doctor, and whether I could be contacted any time day or night.
The bottom line is - can a Hospital Discharge Team force us to accept a NH of their choice or can we hold out for the NH of our choice? Does anyone have any experience of this? I hold LPA for my Mum's Health & Welfare.
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