Hope your medical appointment went ok. Understand what you mean about being unable to speak on the phone as husband follows you round the house. I have the same experience. My husband is certainly getting worse & we finally got a dementia review with a nurse at the surgery. Decided to write down a list of his behaviour with a few questions about the way forward. Sent it to the surgery the day before so that it would be read before our visit. It was so helpful as I did not need to discuss difficult topics in front of him. Following our meeting, GP actually phoned me the next day ( without me asking!) & we are looking again at his medication. Really feel writing it all down helped to make everything clear. This may help you in the future too.
Hi@Safi.....medical appointment was hopeless to be honest, g.p.just kept repeating he was not going to give me med for dementia as not his field and will have to speak to early onset Consultant !
What I was actually asking him for was med for depression and anxiety for my husband as we lurch from one extreme to the other neither is easy to deal with so he finally agreed to give my husband mertazapine .....on my goodness what a mistake that was as aggression levels,verbal abuse,spitting in my face were off the charts so have stopped them immediately....
Am so sorry that you too experience the following around the house,can't speak on the phone either and if I go out into garden he locks me out !,I too have been in touch with dementia nurse again and updated her on behavior but....(isn't their always a but! ) she refuses to do a review until results of CT Scan are in which is no help to us now....... CT SCAN was done on Friday 24th and ordered by husbands consultant so hopefully will hear this week ...fingers crossed eh
Great minds think alike Safi.... as I too have been keeping a diary of OH behaviour and most days it's makes scary reading to be honenest and even keeping the diary is proving to be difficult as i have to write it on the quier and keep it hidden.....OH also just wants to "go home " and no longer recognises home as home if that makes sense? So either he
walks the house and goes missing and have to report it to police or we road trip and that was working great but even that's all gone to pot now so either 10 + phone calls to report him missing or 10+ road trips that are no longer effective......
Must admit after 3 years I'm at my wits end and my OH is only 64 but am seriously doubting how much longer this situation can continue and yes I feel terrible for even writing those words down.....
If you don't mind me asking Safi what sort of age is your husband , just wondered as our husbands traits sound similar.....
Apologies for the long reply. ....
Look after yourself