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Aggressive Behaviour and Care Home

Nim

Registered User
Oct 27, 2015
3
Hi All

My FiL has vascular dementia. He just turned 59. He has been diagnosed the last 3 nearly 4 years and has lived at home all the time. We knew he was becoming violent/aggressive but the MiL refused to put him in a home and we decided to respect her choice.

My reason for posting is this: last week we found out my MiL has terminal cancer. No treatement, just a matter of time. She is 61. My FiL was immediately removed to a dementia care home on a permanent basis. He has visited the home several times before for respite care and seemed to enjoy himself there. Unfortunately today Social Services rang (they are in charge of his care as he is subject to NHS continuing care and is fully funded) to say he is too violent and aggressive and they need to move him. He's been there 6 days.

What is going to happen? Where can they put him? Does anyone have any experience of this? I've read that sectioning can be an option if they are incredibly aggressive and a danger to themselves and others. He is a physically strong man and we are concerned this may be the way they need to go in the end. Hopefully we're just being too pessimistic but with so much going on it's hard to find positives.

Any advice or even a random thought gratefully received!
 

Cat27

Volunteer Moderator
Feb 27, 2015
11,004
Merseyside
Welcome to TP

There are several posters on here whose husband, wife or parent has been sectioned & it's turned out to be a positive thing as they're assessed properly & the right care is found for them.
 

Juliem61

Registered User
Oct 13, 2015
23
My dad was sectioned because of aggression and violence. He is also a very strong man and can be very intimidating (although he is a beautiful, loving, generous and kind man).

The hospital, that he is still in, is fantastic and as soon as he was sectioned, although it was very upsetting, there was a huge relief that he was safe and receiving the proper care.
 

Spamar

Registered User
Oct 5, 2013
7,070
Suffolk
Good heavens, do the same know anything about dementia? At the very least he should be seeing a consultant ASAP for extra or change of meds and see how that works. Or even assessment unit. But not throwing him out after two bodyblows like that!!
 

fizzie

Registered User
Jul 20, 2011
2,730
I agree that he has had massive changes and trauma and he will be aware of what is going on even if he isn't so clued up on the detail. Is it possible that the escalation of behaviour is because of these changes. I agree that a medical professional should see him before he is just moved again. Too much trauma causes aggression and fear in all of us
 

MorbidMagpie

Registered User
Nov 10, 2015
23
England
He should have been placed somewhere that could support him in the first place if he receives CHC funding - you have to have a high level of needs to be eligible and it needs to require specialist care that cannot be provided by just anybody - what a shame for your dad to be faced with so much uncertainty and disruption.

Unfortunately this may have resulted from the fact that you say he has had respite there previously and they may have underestimated how his needs have changed between then and now.
I would want to know what triggered this unexpected behaviour from him and whether this could be risk reduced before even considering whether it is his dementia alone that has caused this, and if it is found to be a change in need to review the medication and see whether this helps.
It has to be a balance between subduing challenging behaviour with medication though and whether another home can support him between without having to do that. If the latter is the case then better to have the chance to settle somewhere without needing medication to manage behaviour. Fortunately he hasn't settled in to the home as a long term resident yet so although disruptive now it will hopefully give him a better chance of being able to settle somewhere for the long term to move now.