I always think that it is interesting that if there is mental capacity to say you do not wish to be in a CH then there is nothing a partner can do about it, even if they are unable to care any longer at home and find it a strain, to the detriment of their own health.
Mameeskye...this was my point and it was bluntly put to the SW by L.
She asked about my rights as a carer. She stated that she thought my liberty was being deprived
if I was caring for Eric unwillingly. And what would SS do if they were to walk in one morning and find that I'd gone...
(Hypothetical question in our case but apparently it happens)
The answer: Emergeny Response Team would spring into action. (Hopefully)
SS would be contacted and reassess the situation.
But they would have to make it clear to Eric..(as he is now) that without me as his main carer he would have to accept either
a) 4 visits a day from the dementia support team to enable him to stay at home
b) full time residential care.
things are gradually but inexorably changing all the time
Yes, they are, Lynne.
Did it make you feel a bit better, or are you still worrying? I
Deborah..I do feel better, thanks.
It does now feel that we're more supported because I've been honest about my feelings.
Part of this struggle has been my own doing, I think.
I've been wearing my nurse's hat as well as my wife's hat.
Have dropped my nurse's hat now..and will try hard to continue with the wife's hat only...
We've had a "good" day today.
Looking back now at the start of this thread just makes you realise again the roller coaster of emotions and worries that a carer has to contend with.
It's not an easy journey. It would be harder still without the support of TP.
Love xx