My Mum passed away in March, and having hardly any time off work other than Bereavement Leave, and after getting through the funeral , sorting out Mums possesions etc
my Dad passed away in the June.
Once again, Bereavement Leave, funerals, sorting out possesions…. then the real fun began ?
Lawyers, Probate etc, and then the Covid Delta variant has reared its ugly head here in New Zealand in the August. We’ve been on a semi lockdown since.
As an essential worker, I’ve been working throughout.
I had already planned on a weeks holiday off work, and what with Covid, ended up being a week at home sorting out paperwork and legal stuff, as my sister co executor for Dads Estate has thrown a legal spanner in the works….. long story but essentially my parents and my husband and I had a joint financial interest, a legal agreement and all above board. We have paid that money back to my Dads Estate.
She’s just trying to get her last penny worth.
Anyway , I just want it all resolved, get a headstone sorted for my parents grave and move on with life, after 10 yrs of dementia and being my parents main carer, POA, then seeing them into care.
My sisters grief is different. She doesnt want to rush things.
Wanting to know where certain photos, books, and possesions are… down to Mum & Dads clothing.
A key chain Dad had. A shirt? A ripped tie?
So what do you do when you are total opposites in this respect?
I work, my sister doesn’t.
I feel she’s lost a sense of purpose, no more visiting Mum & Dad.
The whole legal thing has caused a rift. We’re talking, but not talking.
my Dad passed away in the June.
Once again, Bereavement Leave, funerals, sorting out possesions…. then the real fun began ?
Lawyers, Probate etc, and then the Covid Delta variant has reared its ugly head here in New Zealand in the August. We’ve been on a semi lockdown since.
As an essential worker, I’ve been working throughout.
I had already planned on a weeks holiday off work, and what with Covid, ended up being a week at home sorting out paperwork and legal stuff, as my sister co executor for Dads Estate has thrown a legal spanner in the works….. long story but essentially my parents and my husband and I had a joint financial interest, a legal agreement and all above board. We have paid that money back to my Dads Estate.
She’s just trying to get her last penny worth.
Anyway , I just want it all resolved, get a headstone sorted for my parents grave and move on with life, after 10 yrs of dementia and being my parents main carer, POA, then seeing them into care.
My sisters grief is different. She doesnt want to rush things.
Wanting to know where certain photos, books, and possesions are… down to Mum & Dads clothing.
A key chain Dad had. A shirt? A ripped tie?
So what do you do when you are total opposites in this respect?
I work, my sister doesn’t.
I feel she’s lost a sense of purpose, no more visiting Mum & Dad.
The whole legal thing has caused a rift. We’re talking, but not talking.