Mum announced in about August she would be coming to stay for Christmas. There are huge practical problems with this such as where she sleeps...but despite the fact her NH is ony ten minutes away she wont agree to come in the morning and go back in the evening. Ive kind of lost this battle as it seems so mean to deny her this one thing she wants so desperatly...but whats really worrying me is how to get her back painlessly after wards. Ever since day 1 in the NH she has made it clear she thinks Ive failed her in not having her to live with me..to the degree I dont even bring her here for a visit anymore becuase there was (literally) a screaming fuss when she had to go back which upset my son..and me!! Now when she stays here from Christmas eve to the day after Boxing day it will be even worse!