I have become my step mums PA to help my dad get some repite.
I have been trying to take her shopping everyday for the last 3 weeks, this is what she has done all her life but its not safe for her to go alone now, but it is hard as she refuses to leave dads side and is constanly shouting at him he can't do anything right in her eyes, but he does nothing wrong only looks after her, my problem is that so far to get her to go we have tricked her saying he is going to catch us up, but today she kicked of up the street because she could not see him coming after trying to get her to go further I pretended to phone dad then told her his legs had given way and he would meet us up town in the car this carmed her down and she was fine we enjoyed our 2 hour trip going for a coffee to make it longer for us to be out.
so do I carry on tricking her and hoping for the best or is it better to tell her the truth that dad isn't well and needs a break and she has got to come with me. I know her answer will be that hes has always been ill so what is different now, she can't see that it is her as well thats ill. Dad is so much better getting his little break when I can get her to go, he is so much happier.
any advice welcome
I have been trying to take her shopping everyday for the last 3 weeks, this is what she has done all her life but its not safe for her to go alone now, but it is hard as she refuses to leave dads side and is constanly shouting at him he can't do anything right in her eyes, but he does nothing wrong only looks after her, my problem is that so far to get her to go we have tricked her saying he is going to catch us up, but today she kicked of up the street because she could not see him coming after trying to get her to go further I pretended to phone dad then told her his legs had given way and he would meet us up town in the car this carmed her down and she was fine we enjoyed our 2 hour trip going for a coffee to make it longer for us to be out.
so do I carry on tricking her and hoping for the best or is it better to tell her the truth that dad isn't well and needs a break and she has got to come with me. I know her answer will be that hes has always been ill so what is different now, she can't see that it is her as well thats ill. Dad is so much better getting his little break when I can get her to go, he is so much happier.
any advice welcome