Sorry if i've posted this in the wrong section. My dad has alzeimers, he got diagnosed about three years ago. In the last 18 days he has got worse. He tried to attack my older sister, and was sectioned 18 days ago, he got put into a hospital, and i went to visit hm yesterday and he was asleep when we arrived as he is given sedatives most of the time. He now wears nappies, drinks out of a cup with a lid, and generally dribbles, he also has a tendancy to forget how to chew. I hadn't seen him for about 10 weeks, and all i remember from back then was a guy who still looked like my dad, acted like my dad, only he had no idea who i was, we'd tell him i was his daughter then ten minutes later he'd wanna no who i was. Then i went to see him yesterday and he looked nothing like my dad, he was so skinny, so pale, and his hands seemed to be yellow, i asked why this was and all i got told was he was being tested for problems with his kidney. His speech is slurred and you cant really understand what he's saying. I never realised the affect alzheimers would have, and i never realised it would happen so quickly. The man that laid before me, scared me. As we have found out my dad probably doesn't have long left, my sister wanted to talk about his funeral and i have said i want to keep his ashes. They've said i can have them but my mum seems to think it will have phycological effects on me to keep them. but i just don't feel ready to let him go, i'm not 15 for another two weeks, and i dnt wna lose all memories of my dad. Does anyone have any opinions? Do you agree i should not keep his ashes when he dies?