Hi all
I'm new to the forum and apologies for the long post. I need advice.
It is pretty obvious that my dad has had dementia over the past few years. He was diagnosed in 2012 with short-term memory loss and it has got massively worse. He is 86 now and sometimes doesn't recognise me, his own home (where he lives) and is becoming verbally aggressive, plus he gets up all hours wanting to go home. He seems to be living decades ago but does still wash and shave, etc. He can make a cup of tea but that is about it.
My mother was caring for him (somewhat in denial) but she is now in hospital and I have realised that he is far worse that I thought (even after him calming down a few days after she was admitted). When she gets out of hospital (likely a slow recovery), she will be in no condition to provide care and I cannot be here indefinitely. Dad has been reassessed and the local memory clinic has diagnosed dementia. Also, I'm not sure I am the best person to be providing care and think he may need some professional help.
I have a meeting with social services next week and will be talking to his GP, but any advice is welcome regarding what to do. I can't believe how draining it is, particularly calming him down and having the worry of my mum's illness, plus trying to work from home.
Any advice is welcome.
Regards
Dave
I'm new to the forum and apologies for the long post. I need advice.
It is pretty obvious that my dad has had dementia over the past few years. He was diagnosed in 2012 with short-term memory loss and it has got massively worse. He is 86 now and sometimes doesn't recognise me, his own home (where he lives) and is becoming verbally aggressive, plus he gets up all hours wanting to go home. He seems to be living decades ago but does still wash and shave, etc. He can make a cup of tea but that is about it.
My mother was caring for him (somewhat in denial) but she is now in hospital and I have realised that he is far worse that I thought (even after him calming down a few days after she was admitted). When she gets out of hospital (likely a slow recovery), she will be in no condition to provide care and I cannot be here indefinitely. Dad has been reassessed and the local memory clinic has diagnosed dementia. Also, I'm not sure I am the best person to be providing care and think he may need some professional help.
I have a meeting with social services next week and will be talking to his GP, but any advice is welcome regarding what to do. I can't believe how draining it is, particularly calming him down and having the worry of my mum's illness, plus trying to work from home.
Any advice is welcome.
Regards
Dave