Advice and help please.
I have a friend who is in what can probably best be described as the mid stages of Alzheimers. For the most part she is perfectly normal, performs all normal daily functions and routines, reads and fully comrehends the Telegraph, watches TV, keeps herself and her home clean and tidy. However with what is probably increasing regularity, she reverts back to life maybe twenty or so years ago. No major problems with that in itself, for her it is a pleasant place to be, with friends who are no longer of this life. She feeds herself, makes coffee when I visit, and holds perfectly normal conversations.
Now comes the problem.
Her family have decided that the time has come for her to move into a care home. For them it would be more convenient, less responsibility, and if I am brutally honest, more ready cash, as she has a considerable wealth.
They haven't mentioned a word of it to her, and the plan is simply to take her to the home on the pretence that she is going to stay with one of them for a short holiday.
She doesn't know what is planned, but it appears that another elderly friend has accidentally let the cat out of the bag, and this morning I received a call stating that she had absolutely no intention of leaving her own home, and that her family were just after her money.
This afternoon,and fortunately I think, she has no recollection of the distress she was in earlier in the day.
So, what to do?
Do I simply sit back and let her family effectively "kidnap" her and incarcerate her into a home against her will, as for sure she will never be allowed out once she is there, or is there something that I can or indeed should be doing about this.
I would appreciate any help and advice.
Many thanks.
I have a friend who is in what can probably best be described as the mid stages of Alzheimers. For the most part she is perfectly normal, performs all normal daily functions and routines, reads and fully comrehends the Telegraph, watches TV, keeps herself and her home clean and tidy. However with what is probably increasing regularity, she reverts back to life maybe twenty or so years ago. No major problems with that in itself, for her it is a pleasant place to be, with friends who are no longer of this life. She feeds herself, makes coffee when I visit, and holds perfectly normal conversations.
Now comes the problem.
Her family have decided that the time has come for her to move into a care home. For them it would be more convenient, less responsibility, and if I am brutally honest, more ready cash, as she has a considerable wealth.
They haven't mentioned a word of it to her, and the plan is simply to take her to the home on the pretence that she is going to stay with one of them for a short holiday.
She doesn't know what is planned, but it appears that another elderly friend has accidentally let the cat out of the bag, and this morning I received a call stating that she had absolutely no intention of leaving her own home, and that her family were just after her money.
This afternoon,and fortunately I think, she has no recollection of the distress she was in earlier in the day.
So, what to do?
Do I simply sit back and let her family effectively "kidnap" her and incarcerate her into a home against her will, as for sure she will never be allowed out once she is there, or is there something that I can or indeed should be doing about this.
I would appreciate any help and advice.
Many thanks.