Hi there i have just become a temporary carer for my 81 year old uncle as my mum has washed her hands of caring for him.My mum has got lot's of health problems and is 75 years old.Mum has always took money from him and some of my uncles DLA was given t her twice per month.My uncle moved into a flat next door to my mum and they have both lived next door from each other for the last 26 years.Mum has gone out as a companion with my uncle on days out etc as she doesn't have much of a social life as well and only occasionaly goes out.My mum has been taking money off my uncle for as long as i can remember.To cut a long story short my mum was sending my uncle to the local shop each day for ciggy's but he has also gone out to the shops of his own accord several times which he used to do okay but now he keeps falling over when ever he has gone out,most of the time kind neighbours bring him home.He collapsed last week and spent 5 days in Hospital he won't let anyone in his flat to check if it was clean,my mum eventually was left the key to his flat when he went into hospital and mum was shocked to discover the flat was a total mess and my uncle had defecated all over the flat and his bed was heavily soiled and he had not had a wash for months,all his clothes were covered in bodily wastes and the flat was a mess an d no bills had been paid for the last 3 months.We got the flat clean and got new clothes and bed sheets and made the flat nice,my mum discovered money in bundles all over the flat,the flat was a disgusting mess.My uncle was in hospital for 5 days and was assessed for nursing home care but the team said he doesn't meet the criteria and that there were people much worse in the dimentia home,so my uncle got brought home even thou the hospital know that my mum tried to stab my dad years ago when she was stressed from the abuse my Dad put her through and that she had been violent again in recent years,we also told about the state of the flat and that my uncle could not manage without my mum's help.I have a child with sever disabilities and my two siblings are married to their jobs.I can't take care of my uncle myself.My uncle got back from hospital and went back to his flat and collapsed again an ambulance was phoned but they refused to take my uncle to hospital saying he was medically fit.Temporary carers was put into place for my uncle after he left hospital but that is not good enough and my mum wants him put into a home full stop.I phoned a social worker today and they went out to my mum's and arranged for a week respite.I know my mum is going to do one and leave my uncle to the authorities,i'm at my wits end and my mum leans on my quite heavy and i'm in a panic incase my mum runs off on holiday and leave either the authorities to deal with it or dump the load on me.I love my uncle dearly but due to my own son having many disabilities i can only do so much.I know my mum has no understanding what so ever can someone please advise me.