hi
@jennifer1967
if you are fearful of your safety tonight call the police ... there is also emergency contact info for Adult Services on the Local Authority website
if you're OK tonight, contact them in the morning and say that you yourself are a vulnerable adult at risk of harm due to your own ill health and your husband's behaviour, that you are frightened of him and close to carer breakdown ... that he is also a vulnerable adult who would be at risk of harm due to self neglect should you be incapacitated ... tell them you believe your situation is a safeguarding issue ... hopefully they will respond quickly ... ask for some respite (for yourself) ... make it clear that you do not believe your husband has capacity to make decisions about his welfare as he has no understanding of the consequences of saying no to support and certainly no understanding of the effects on you ... ask for a best interests meeting
let your GP know how things are as well