Yes, I am in a big rut too, but it’s so easy to offer advice and so difficult to take it!
My mum can be left in the afternoons for three hours so my children tell me on days when I want to, go out. Luckily I drive, I have a thick coat and a book and sit huddled in outdoor cafes with a black coffee...usually get an angry response from my back the next day but....
Think to myself what am I moaning about , but the majority of women my age can do things without weighing up the pros and cons and effect on mum!!