morning
@margherita, i did once for a few days but the kids were too upset. now its not what i want and not really doable as i have no where to go and i want to see if there are other ways to deal with it.i have been with him 33 yrs[all my adult life] so would like to see other options. i registered his poa online and have now named the doctors as having access to the poa so they can place it on file. i will then do an email to the doctors about what has been happening and see if there are other things they can do. i also love him very much so dont want to walk away from someone exploring all avenues i can to get him help. it feels like kicking a man when hes down. i have got the access code to give to the doctors so they can register my poa and will be emailing them about the current problems as he gives them his version of events. as i seem to be the target, i need to explain what happens and see if they can do something here.
I don’t think the answer is to leave him, I think you should stay where you are.
If this continues then the answer is that he can benefit from residential care. Maybe my advice is premature, but on the long term how good is medication at solving problems?
That way you could still visit and maintain a very positive relationship.
No one knows better than you the pain and hurdles that would take place before that happens, particularly as he has capacity at present.
Between now and then the thing you can do to best help yourself is compile evidence, no one is going to want to pick up the care bill without lots and lots of lovely evidence!