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hes decided he doesnt want one. i think it was when i suggested he try mine. he showed me the one he wanted which looked like 3 wheel proper scooter shape front.Better not to buy one if he’s not feeling confident riding it. It would be a shame to spend the money and then not use it.
good morning @MaNaAk thank you for reminding me. i know she was having an extension to her kitchen done. ive just said, i wonder if the building work has been finished as it would be nice to see his sister before the winter sets in. hes going to phone her later.
even when i used to go down, we very rarely stayed the night. its always been just a day. my oldest son who takes him is also a carer for his partner and son so i dont think he would be able to. his partner has bi-polar and can get very anxious. even when comes to me, 15 minute journey, she is on the phone constantly. hes not coming to do the grass today but coming tomorrow now.
thank you @Brickie, im sorry you are suffering as well. my husband has vascular dementia so it was hard as there are no tablets for it. i contacted my gp who referred to older peoples mental health who put him on memantine which has helped to reduce the nastiness and its not so prolonged but still happens quite regularly. my husband said he was using his dementia against me. i am housebound and suffer from chronic pain so things needed to change or reduce. i have sorted out him going to mens shed which he really enjoys now. i had to push him to go at the beginning but he looks forward to it now. i look forward to the peace. my husband was always like it but the dementia exaggerated it. the emphasis is on me moving out of the room. this forum has been such a support and the advice ive had has made me see i dont have to put up with it and ive now got a mobility scooter which gives me the freedom to get out of the house. i have a dementia navigator as well and admiral nurses support the carer of the person with dementia[PWD]. dont put yourself at risk. have a charged mobile on you always and a room with a lockable door. if it gets worse or you are in fear of your safety, please phone police, 111 ambulance. dont stay and get hurt.Jennifer, I’ve just read your post from March and haven’t read all the replies, but I just wanted to say how much I empathise. My husband has Alzheimer’s and since his diagnosis seems to relish making excuses for his behaviour. He can be tolerably well disposed to me provided I am there to attend. He’s a sweet ‘old man’ to anyone we meet, but a nasty insulting husband to me. I really hate him at times.
Share these issues with the community nurse lovelyi didnt think i was far wrong. hes worried and like always, hes taking it out on me like im not worried.. hes been having a go at me for the last 2 days. hes trying to block it out by having a go at me. he doesnt want the endoscopy and i respect and accept that but now hes trying to use it like a bargaining tool and make me be responsible for the decision.i havent slept well the last couple of nights as im worried too but that doesnt come into the equation, not even considered.
he came home from mens sheds and the music had to go off straight away regardless as to whether i was enjoying it or not. i was knitting at the time so put it down and made him a cup of tea and he was still demanding, ordering and being a bully to a point that i started crying. im worn out and i still keep going but i reached my limit on what i was prepared to put up with and went upstairs for couple of hours to get out of his way. he said that it wasnt working me dealing with him having dementia. i can manage dementia being a carer for 9 yrs in a carehome with challenging behaviour, what i cant manage is the bullying and putting the emphasis on me. not really wording it right but i have enough to deal with without him getting short-tempered with me because hes trying to block it out. he has capacity and the CPN said he knows what hes doing. he ruined the day for me and cancelled out any benefit from the 2hr break i had.
the other thing was that he bought me a ready meal which is fine but it contains red wine gravy. i dont drink alcohol or eat anything with alcohol in it at all out of principal and he knows that. my mum ordered sherry trifle for my wedding and i couldnt eat. im strict with it. hes belittle my principals by saying the alcohol gets burnt off. i know that but i will not eat it. its like if you were a vegetarian and someone gave you meat. i think that hurt more. ive told him that its unacceptable and why should i be treated like it. it hurts just as much as if someone physically hits you. he is clearing the freezer tomorrow now ready for the new one coming on saturday and im going out.
the community nurse has phoned and i am having my flu jab at home on tuesday so i will be covered. i assume that pharmacy will be offering them too very soon.