thank you @MaNaAk weve had a better day today with music. he has been a bit short, ordering and demanding and telling me what im doing tomorrow but formula 1 has distracted him until 2 crashed. hes not half as bad as he was thank goodness. i amm sorting and clearing his clothes tomorrow which is not so heavy for me and im still clearing. i made a mistake and my jab is next wednesday so clear the days afterwards. hes going out monday so im ring-fencing them as mine. will contact admiral nurses on monday. at least i have wound down and have got some self-worth back thanks to this forum and the friends on it.