my daughter and her partner have taken him out for a little while and brought a card down. so get a bit time to myself. he wanted an airfryer for his birthday so i did get him one with the view if he cant manage then i can manage to use it. he has used it a couple of times and seems to manage. its healthier at least.
advice please
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thank you @MaNaAk he went out with my daughter for couple of hours. he phoned his sister and shes still waiting for a made to measure dining table but he should be going down sometime in april.
I think the poster is saying that her husband has trust issues, not the son.Hi @jennifer1967
Lots of frontal lobe behaviour there that I recognise
Although there is no medication for vascular dementia as such, there is medication for the behaviour. In particular there is medication that can calm hypersexuality. Please do contact your GP outlining the problems and emphasising that you are afraid of him. Do also be prepared to phone 999 if he becomes very angry. You are right - defending yourself will only trigger the anger.
What are you afraid might happen? Would the son remove him from your "influence"? Would this be a bad thing?
nope hes going out today though. @MaNaAk hope you had a better night. i had stomach ache again, probably something to do with chocolates i shouldnt of ate!
im ok now but will take chocs slower. rounded is a new one on me. the chocs were very rich. i had to give some others to my husband. he did his best to help me out with them. so helpful!!!!
Good morning @jennifer1967,
How's your husband today? Is it worth him doing a Covid test to rule that out? How's your husband @Duggies-girl ?
MaNaAk
How's your husband today? Is it worth him doing a Covid test to rule that out? How's your husband @Duggies-girl ?
MaNaAk
My husband is exactly the same, he is undiagnosed but I have seen him decline slowly over the last 5 years. His short term memory is very poor. As his condition has deteriorated his temper and controlling has become much worse. No matter how much I try to keep him happy it may be just a simple thing that triggers his nasty remarks again. He knows he has a problem and writes everything down to help him....on line banking is a nightmare and he can be so rude to the online staff when he phones for help. Most of the time I hate waking up dreading what the day will bring...he constantly loses his temper and is foul mouthed not just at me. He doesn't like me seeing friends so feel isolated. Although I do have young grandchildren who he appears to love. But after reading posts I now feel I am unable to dedicate the remaining years I have to him...living in dread which will only get worse. I do feel sorry for him but he has always had problems with anger and realises he should have had anger management years ago.... so I suffer for this. We had a terrible day on Monday and he now is very quiet but I decided then I cannot go on. At the present he can manage alone so this is probably the right time as if I wait I know I will not leave him when he needs me so much more. The sad thing is his behaviour when much younger pushed his children away they have never been intouch for years. He has family but I know they are not aware of his condition. To
good morning @MaNaAk im not sure. he says he feels better, just a bit groggy. ive suggested a test and he says no and his breathing is better. his oxygen rates are ok but i will keep an eye on him and suggest a test at regular intervals
i have done a test on him and hes clear so thats good. we think its just the weather change on his COPD and a general progression. i will keep an eye on him.
he went to mens shed but not entirely sure he was well but as he says he can come home again if he doesnt feel right. hes very much slower and questioned a jumper. he just says his breathing is not as good due to weather changes and mentioned steroids last night. it doesnt help it forgets to take his reliever inhaler when he is breathless as he cant remember when he needs it. i feel like a broken record or over fussy sometimes.
You are not a broken record just a loving wife, mother and friend. Look at the support you're giving me @jennifer1967.
MaNaAk
Good morning @jennifer1967,
Men's Shed today but keep those neighbours out of your house and they shouldn't be asking either of you for money.
MaNaAk
Men's Shed today but keep those neighbours out of your house and they shouldn't be asking either of you for money.
MaNaAk
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