Hi All
My mother's partner has been slowly becoming unwell over the past year or so - with many of the symptoms of dementia - forgetfulness, getting lost or wandering off, confusion, lack of communication, anger and frustration - and has rapidly deteriorated over the past few months, to a point where he now needs help with dressing and washing. He is in his mid-50s.
My mother and he are unmarried, but have lived together for the past 15 years. He does not have any close family or friends, and my mother has been taking on all of his care on her own. The family are all concerned about his well-being and also want to find my mother some support; however, her partner will not talk about how he is feeling, and refuses to admit there is anything wrong - instead he insists people are moving or 'stealing' things, or misleading or nagging him. My mother recently tried to arrange a doctors appointment for him, but he refused to go and became very angry, threatening to leave her if she mentioned it again.
We are all feeling at a loss about what to do next. He really needs to see a doctor to find out what is wrong with him, and my mother really needs some support too - she has recently had to quit her part-time job to spend more time at home with him - but it seems impossible to encourage him to go to see a doctor.
Has anyone had a similar experience, or any advice on what to do next? Thanks!
My mother's partner has been slowly becoming unwell over the past year or so - with many of the symptoms of dementia - forgetfulness, getting lost or wandering off, confusion, lack of communication, anger and frustration - and has rapidly deteriorated over the past few months, to a point where he now needs help with dressing and washing. He is in his mid-50s.
My mother and he are unmarried, but have lived together for the past 15 years. He does not have any close family or friends, and my mother has been taking on all of his care on her own. The family are all concerned about his well-being and also want to find my mother some support; however, her partner will not talk about how he is feeling, and refuses to admit there is anything wrong - instead he insists people are moving or 'stealing' things, or misleading or nagging him. My mother recently tried to arrange a doctors appointment for him, but he refused to go and became very angry, threatening to leave her if she mentioned it again.
We are all feeling at a loss about what to do next. He really needs to see a doctor to find out what is wrong with him, and my mother really needs some support too - she has recently had to quit her part-time job to spend more time at home with him - but it seems impossible to encourage him to go to see a doctor.
Has anyone had a similar experience, or any advice on what to do next? Thanks!