Hi, I could do with a bit of advice please. As a consequence of Mum's AZ she is not looking after herself like she used to do. Her clothes aren't being changed on a regular basis - My Brother and I think that she doesn't have a bath anymore - simply strip washing when she either remembers or is advised to by one of the family. Dad is her main carer - they won't accept too much help from either my brother or myself -very frustrating from our perspective. We think that they are both in denial with it all - when we suggest anything - it's always dismissed - they are fine ! When we suggest that they perhaps have someone in to help - again met with no thanks. We have managed to sort out the Attenance Allowance for both of them - so the money is there - but for whatever reason - it;s not getting spent where we think it should be being spent - improving the quality of their lives. It's so frustrating for both of us - any ideas welcome. The game we are playing at the moment is the waiting game - Money' s there - we are there to kick things in when we need to. Is that the right approach or not?