Hi all. I hope that some of you may be able to help with my problem. My mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia 18 months ago and has been deteriorating since then. She has the common list of other health problem such as angina, high blood pressure and diabeties. for which she has a variety of medication. She had a fall at Christmas last year which resulted in a broken leg and has been in hospital and respite care since then. She is now coming to the end of her stay in the care home and is very determined to come home, which is something I dread. The problem is that all the assesments she has had have all come to the conclusion that she is able to look after herself and I agree that on the face of things she would be able to do. Unfortunatly she is very stubbon and set in her ways and has constantly refused to take her medication, claiming it makes her worst. This was a direct cause of her recent fall and resulting fractured leg. She also doesn't eat properly, which means her diabeties is not controlled properly. She openly says she will continue to only eat what she wants, despite admitting that a balanced diet is even more important given her condition. I know that if she does return home within a few months we will be in the same situation or worst, as she was lucky that the fall at Christmas only resulted in a leg fracture as it could have been a lot worst. The medical professionals seem to agree with my concerns but say that they cannot do anything and that if she wants to go home then they have to let her.