Hi all, I know I'm not on here very often but I do read the forums a lot and I was hoping some of you could give me some advice on what to do when visiting my mother. I don't get to see her very often because she lives in Ireland and I'm working and trying to build a life in Scotland. I saw her in February and I was really upset at the time at the deterioration since I had last seen her. She was so thin, conversation was really limited, and she couldn't sit herself up in bed. She thought I was my sister. I didn't stay long, I didn't know what to say. I'm going home again tomorrow. I'm really scared and nervous. I want to spend some time with my mother because I'm always afraid it will be the last time I see her. I just don't know what to talk to her about, or do with her. I've never told her about my partner or my work because I don't know if I should introduce strange names and ideas at this stage. Is it okay to show photographs or will that just confuse her? Should I just let her talk if she wants to or is able to and just sit there and listen? What do you do? What should I be doing? I struggle not to cry when I'm with her. I don't always succeed but she doesn't notice. I'd really like to have some pleasant time with her but I don't know if it's possible. Does anyone have any ideas? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks, K.