Hello.
Please, if anyone has any advice to offer it would be very gratefully received !
I am trying to help my Dad who is caring for my Mum who has Alzheimers.
My parents live in the Dordogne region of France.
My Mum is at the stage where she is totally dependant on my Dad and it's now starting to take its toll on him.
He has recently admitted to himself that he now needs help and advice.
He has found an English support group in their area (unfortunately my Dad isn't fluent in French) and they have been a couple of times. The issue is that (at the moment) my Dad is after advice about financial/practical/physical aspects rather than emotional support. He is trying to get information regarding things like help around the house, possibly someone to sit with my Mum from time to time so he can get on with things he needs to do.
He is unsure on what, if any, benefits (with help me than monetary) that they would be entitled to.
Right now he feels like he is banging his head against a brick wall because he doesn't know where to start to get any information.
I feel so helpless as I live in England so all I can do is offer them both emotional support.
It's just a horrible situation and when I talk to my parents every evening I want to talk about nice and good things but I just seem to be nagging my Dad all the time about getting help and that's just not right. I keep on at him because he has to take care of himself as well as look after Mum.
My Mum is still at the stage where she knows she has Alzheimers but as I said is totally dependant on my Dad.
My Dad now does all the cooking, cleaning, everything for Mum etc etc.
He is more than happy to care for my Mum but some help and advice and a bit of 'me' time would help both of them I think.
It's there anyone that can at least point us in the right direction in getting help for my parents ? We understand the language issue is a barrier but I don't think moving back to England is an option as they love their life in France and they want to stay there.
Many thanks in advance. Lois
P.s they are under a neurologist and have full topped up carte vital (apologies if spelling is incorrect)
Please, if anyone has any advice to offer it would be very gratefully received !
I am trying to help my Dad who is caring for my Mum who has Alzheimers.
My parents live in the Dordogne region of France.
My Mum is at the stage where she is totally dependant on my Dad and it's now starting to take its toll on him.
He has recently admitted to himself that he now needs help and advice.
He has found an English support group in their area (unfortunately my Dad isn't fluent in French) and they have been a couple of times. The issue is that (at the moment) my Dad is after advice about financial/practical/physical aspects rather than emotional support. He is trying to get information regarding things like help around the house, possibly someone to sit with my Mum from time to time so he can get on with things he needs to do.
He is unsure on what, if any, benefits (with help me than monetary) that they would be entitled to.
Right now he feels like he is banging his head against a brick wall because he doesn't know where to start to get any information.
I feel so helpless as I live in England so all I can do is offer them both emotional support.
It's just a horrible situation and when I talk to my parents every evening I want to talk about nice and good things but I just seem to be nagging my Dad all the time about getting help and that's just not right. I keep on at him because he has to take care of himself as well as look after Mum.
My Mum is still at the stage where she knows she has Alzheimers but as I said is totally dependant on my Dad.
My Dad now does all the cooking, cleaning, everything for Mum etc etc.
He is more than happy to care for my Mum but some help and advice and a bit of 'me' time would help both of them I think.
It's there anyone that can at least point us in the right direction in getting help for my parents ? We understand the language issue is a barrier but I don't think moving back to England is an option as they love their life in France and they want to stay there.
Many thanks in advance. Lois
P.s they are under a neurologist and have full topped up carte vital (apologies if spelling is incorrect)