Hello,
Thanks for taking time to read this!
My mother in law is 68 and has Alzheimer and Parkinson disease. She was diagnosed about 2 years ago after much messing about and misdiagnosis from her GP. Since then as a family we haven't really moved forward in terms of discussing her diagnosis fully or even addressing the ever increasing pressures and challenges her condition throws at us.
To cut a very long story short the main problems are:
They live 2 hours drive away from us on outskirts of Harrogate in a very small village with little amenities.
Due to distance my father in law is her main carers - we and my siblings in law take it in turns most weekends to visit to help out but we all work and all have small children of our own to think about.
My father in law is a very proud and stubborn man and will not accept help from anyone - example: mother in laws mobility is declining and I simply suggested we get her a full hard pair of slippers to replace her soft slip-on pair, but I was shot down for suggesting it. It was only when the physio came for an assessment and told him to replace the slippers did he take any notice.
Hope I'm not waffling too much - I guess what I'm needing advice for is that I am worried about both my mother and father in law in terms of both their health and mental well being.
Father in law shouts at my mother in law and frequently get angry for the slightest thing - caught him screaming at her at the weekend because she forgot to take her tablets when it is actually his responsibility to give them to her because she forgets to take them!!!
He is refusing to move closer to family - which I completely understand but he refuses help.
My husband and his other children are reluctant to sit down and have it out so to say for fear of upsetting him.
He wouldn't take kindly to myself or his other daughter and son in law speaking to him.
How do I get him to accept help and possible anger management/relief for himself?
Again many thanks for taking time to read my waffle - hope have made sense!
I am assuming we are all on this site for similar reasons therefore wishing you all the best for the future!
Thanks for taking time to read this!
My mother in law is 68 and has Alzheimer and Parkinson disease. She was diagnosed about 2 years ago after much messing about and misdiagnosis from her GP. Since then as a family we haven't really moved forward in terms of discussing her diagnosis fully or even addressing the ever increasing pressures and challenges her condition throws at us.
To cut a very long story short the main problems are:
They live 2 hours drive away from us on outskirts of Harrogate in a very small village with little amenities.
Due to distance my father in law is her main carers - we and my siblings in law take it in turns most weekends to visit to help out but we all work and all have small children of our own to think about.
My father in law is a very proud and stubborn man and will not accept help from anyone - example: mother in laws mobility is declining and I simply suggested we get her a full hard pair of slippers to replace her soft slip-on pair, but I was shot down for suggesting it. It was only when the physio came for an assessment and told him to replace the slippers did he take any notice.
Hope I'm not waffling too much - I guess what I'm needing advice for is that I am worried about both my mother and father in law in terms of both their health and mental well being.
Father in law shouts at my mother in law and frequently get angry for the slightest thing - caught him screaming at her at the weekend because she forgot to take her tablets when it is actually his responsibility to give them to her because she forgets to take them!!!
He is refusing to move closer to family - which I completely understand but he refuses help.
My husband and his other children are reluctant to sit down and have it out so to say for fear of upsetting him.
He wouldn't take kindly to myself or his other daughter and son in law speaking to him.
How do I get him to accept help and possible anger management/relief for himself?
Again many thanks for taking time to read my waffle - hope have made sense!
I am assuming we are all on this site for similar reasons therefore wishing you all the best for the future!