Hello PurplePoppy
This was, for us, the hardest thing to do for Mum, but we did it because she needs care 24/7 and we can not do that for her.
This was following Dad's sudden stroke and before his death a couple of weeks later.
We said she was going to stay with friends of ours for a few days, she was alright on the day and settled fairly quickly, we stayed away for the first week on the homes advice.
She still wanted to "go home" as she did when in her own home of 35 years, but eventually that stage passed and almost 2 years on, we look back and are so pleased we made that decision for her.
We asked the home managers advice as they deal with the situation frequently.
Leaving her was just horrible, but as she was chatting happily to other residents, we made a quick exit, leaving the staff to unpack her things for us.
It was much tougher on us than Mum.
Mum is settled, safe and well looked after and we visit as often as we like.
You will need to be strong for each other, especially for your Dad, but we find that we have to base our decisions on Mum's needs, they are paramount as AD leaves our loved ones in such a fragile and vulnerable state.
Look after yourselves and each other and my very best wishes for a smooth transition to this next major step.
Kathleen