This is my first posting but I have read other threads with interest and relief that others are in a similar situation. My mother has dementia (un- diagnosed GP coming out this week). This Christmas things have come to a "head" as she seems to cry all the time apart from mornings when she is alert. She asked where my father was just before Christmas- he died 19years ago and then my sister 19 years ago..the grief was as raw as the day they both died when I told her. She is 87 and forgets her siblings have died as she is one of 12 it is fairly regular!! She keeps asking what is the matter with her- unfortunately she is partially sighted so has little stimulation like reading etc and she has been housebound for 4 years. On Christmas day I was in and out of her home all day as the TV broke! She kept ringing every five minutes as if it was new information. I spoke to the GP who has put Mum on antidepressants until she comes to assess her this week but she is so drowsy and is sleeping a lot. I feel so guilty to say that it is a relief when she sleeps but it is.. I have two teenagers who are revising for exams and I help them so it is a strain on everyone including my husband. I have a back injury so usually things done in pain. I don`t want my Mum to go into a home..she doesnt like strangers so I`m dreading the GP asking her about care! She apologises for her behaviour constantly and is quite aware- could she have Alzheimers? Thanks to the lady who gave info about British Gas!! I registered Mum. Happy New Year to all and thanks for listening/reading!!