1. storm

    storm Registered User

    Aug 10, 2004
    269
    notts
    hi all, I have got a lady from the local mental health unit coming to see me on thursday after waiting since last september i did ask her what the visit entails but she just said lots of questions and form filling involved. Mum and i have both had our assesments with S/S so what is this visit for does anyone know? also what does it entail and will it provide any practical help? I seem to have lost the plot lately and cant get my brain into gear im sure i know all this. storm
     
  2. Chesca

    Chesca Guest

    Dear Storm

    You haven't lost the plot, sounds like you're very stressed out which doesn't make for clear thinking.

    The lady from the unit needs to be a little more specific about your meeting. Can you phone her for more information? A lot of questions and form filling is no answer (that's what they always do anyway) you have the right to know to what end you are answering questions. It could be to assess how Mum is progressing and you are coping with a view to improving your support, financial or practical, anything. I can understand your frustration, she is not being helpful at all. Try to phone for more info.

    Best wishes
    Chesca
     
  3. storm

    storm Registered User

    Aug 10, 2004
    269
    notts
    dear Chesca,thanks for your reply just what do the mental health team do that is differant from the S/S? we already know mum has dementia i dont think i have the energy for phone calls so i will just wait and see what wonderfull ideas they come up with it cant be any worse than S/S offering me 2hrs respite aweek and expecting me to jump for joy. I care 24/7 for muminlaw and have done for the last 2yrs without a break so blow them all i will just carry on,storm
     
  4. Chesca

    Chesca Guest

    Dear Storm

    What happened in our case was that the mental health team were accountable to the consultant, making period visits and reporting back on Mum's condition. They can, however, utilise the social services and liaise in order to provide further support - but again, in my experience, the two departments were always at loggerheads with one another, some kind of power struggle, who knows? We're the ones left with the mess at the end of the day, as you are now. It may be that the mht could press for more respite for you..........we'll keep dreaming.

    Hope you'll let us know sometime after their visit. In the meantime, take care of yourself: you sound so tired out and at the end of your tether, it just ain't fair.

    kind wishes to you and yours
    Chesca
     
  5. storm

    storm Registered User

    Aug 10, 2004
    269
    notts
    dear Chesca,thanks again just getting a reply like yours confirming that its not just me the system is against has made me feel better.If they actually got off thier behinds instead of this endless form filling useless questions and back biteing between departments and listened to what we as carers say we need we might get somewhere.storm
     
  6. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Storm
    Chesca has really answered your query.
    The last letter I received telling me "I will be calling to discuss your situation" I telephoned and asked "for what purpose"?
    Our consultant has a good team,an OT aranged for a hand rail to be fitted ,very quickly.
    Social Services took longer to fit a handle.
    Why didn't one fit both? Social services don't fit wood!!!
    Often it seems things come quicker through the consultant's team
    Storm I will think about you on Thursday on that day I have someone coming from the Local services directorate-community initiatives-- --Fairer charging for non-residential service users.
    PURPOSE--- To complete a charging assessment for your home care support.
    What a load of balderdash,they are coming to see how much they can screw out of Peg's income to pay towards the measly two 3 hour sessions that we have.
    Day by day I hope the don't send me down after Thursday!
    good luck Storm
    Norman
     
  7. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Dear Storm, yes I think Chesca and Norm are right as we had similar. They have to re-assess every so often for the Specialist/consultant. They then all have a discussion about any points raised by you about needing more help as M in L's condition is worse not better, so make sure you spell it out loud and clear about needing more help. Do let us know how you get on, will be thinking of you, love She. XX
     
  8. Geraldine

    Geraldine Registered User

    Oct 17, 2003
    143
    Nottingham
    Hi Storm

    you are coping wonderfully well under enormous pressure. But I think now the time has come to start telling people that you are NOT coping and that if they NOT start helping more soon then the situation WILL become an emergency. In my experience from getting sitting services, financial help even to considering the move to a care home if people think you can do it on your own they will run a mile, if they see breakdown looming they will start to help becuase in the long run if they leave it too late it will only mean more work and expense for them.

    best wishes Geraldine
     

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