My mum has dementia she’s 81 and in denial. She lives in her own 2 and 1/2 hours from me, so we spend a lot of time on the phone. My mum has a cat, but in recent weeks has started to believe she has 3, they are cats we have had in the past as a family. Unfortunately my mum believes that a neighbour is taking her cats in and keeping them against there will. It’s really hard to deal with, because often the real cat is at home and it’s the cats from the past she believes are missing. The CPN told my mum that the original missing cat a white one from the past had been run over, to try and get some closure for my mum, shortly after this the black and white one from the past came back. It causes my mum a lot of upset, she rings me constantly to tell me they are missing, she cry’s and gets very angry with the woman that she believes has her cats. She gets very angry with me too and it usually results with her putting the phone down on me. Today she thinks the lady has taken her cats somewhere in her car, as the cars missing from the supposed cat thief’s drive. I’ve tried to reassure her, tell her that the cat/cats will be back soon, but she’s got very angry with me because I won’t agree with this kidnap conspiracy, the phone has been slammed down on me again. I’m so exhausted with this everyday, several times a day, the upset her crying and the anxiety it’s causing her and sad that she falls out with me. We are going to get some special fencing put up for her so the cat can’t leave the garden, so hopefully that will put an end to this. I do worry about what will replace it though, as she seems to get very obsessive about things. Sorry for the long post, just needed to vent really to people who will hopefully understand. Feel better for getting it off my chest anyway, look forward to hearing from some of you. Thanks for reading