- not sure how to use this. I am a new member and would like to give a brief description of my situation in order to get help/advice from someone similiar.
My husband, John, has Pick's disease (frontal temporal lobe dementia)
Now he is mostly bedridden, stays in the same position in bed unless he is moved, and can only be gotten into a chair with a hoist. He is unable to do anything for himself. He is a big man so I have carers supplied by SS who come in in the morning, afternoon and evening to help wash and change him, in theory it works (I would like to explain that further at a later date). I feed my husband, medicate him, ensure his bowels are regular and take action if not. I shave him, cream his legs and feet, wash his hair etc. John cannot communicate in the ordinary sense but says thing which I can interpret correctly (I hope). He has always been a cheerful man with a wicked sense of humour which still flashes through occasionally. He has always been more ready to laugh than cry.
Recently he has become a little moody and says things which indicate that he is aware that things aren't OK with him but he is unsure what exactly is wrong. He cries sometimes but he is brave and proud man so this not common.
Can anyone advise what I should say to him to help him I feel so inadequate, i cuddle and kiss but I can't tell him what is wrong with him
Paulaph
My husband, John, has Pick's disease (frontal temporal lobe dementia)
Now he is mostly bedridden, stays in the same position in bed unless he is moved, and can only be gotten into a chair with a hoist. He is unable to do anything for himself. He is a big man so I have carers supplied by SS who come in in the morning, afternoon and evening to help wash and change him, in theory it works (I would like to explain that further at a later date). I feed my husband, medicate him, ensure his bowels are regular and take action if not. I shave him, cream his legs and feet, wash his hair etc. John cannot communicate in the ordinary sense but says thing which I can interpret correctly (I hope). He has always been a cheerful man with a wicked sense of humour which still flashes through occasionally. He has always been more ready to laugh than cry.
Recently he has become a little moody and says things which indicate that he is aware that things aren't OK with him but he is unsure what exactly is wrong. He cries sometimes but he is brave and proud man so this not common.
Can anyone advise what I should say to him to help him I feel so inadequate, i cuddle and kiss but I can't tell him what is wrong with him
Paulaph
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