Dear Teresa,
This is a very hard one, one that i had to face myself just over four years ago. My mother was in a nursing home because my dad had become very ill whilst looking after at home, and had to go into hospital, he was diagnosed with cancer and given 18mths. When dads time came to leave us, mum, had no idea that her husband had passed away.
Myself, brothers and sister tried to explain as best we could but she didn't really understand what was happening. We all decided that in the interest of mum, that it was probabley for the best that we didn't take her to the funeral as she got very upset whenever we tried to take her out of the home.
We all felt that it would be far too distressing for her, and, she wouldn't have understood what was going on, the AD had gotten too much of a hold. We all visited mum after and once again tried to explain, but it didn't really sink in. It was so upsetting, we just did what we felt was the kindest thing for mum at that time. She was in her world, that in some ways was so unnaffected, and, so hard to reach we just felt we couldn't face it if she saw all of us so upset it might make her worse.
We made that decision for her, said our prayers for dad, and for mum and hoped that it was the right one.
My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. Just listen to your heart , and know, that whatever you do will be all that you can , in such a sensative and emotional situation.
love louise xxx