Since early December I've been searching for a home placement for my mother, currently in hospital. There's much been much unnecessary grief along the way - local Social Services here don't even publish a listing, for example, but she's on four waiting lists. Today, I'm invited - at one working day's notice - to a ward review meeting at the hospital and get an email dropping thinly veiled hints that there's going to be a deadline imposed to get her out of the hospital bed.
I'm trying to hold down a full-time job (having lost one last year and being £10K a year worse off) while doing all this unaided, as the hospital's fiorm suggestion is that she move nearer me (she's 100 miles away). As she'll be self-funding, I can only approach some local homes directly - the remainder are block booked by local Social Services, and while they might consider her for their allocation list, there's no guarantee she'll be reviewed or that I'll have any choice or say in which home. She's utterly set against the whole idea anyway, and I fail to see how dumping her just anyway is going to help anyone. And I can see my inheritance being peed up the wall (pardon my French) in more grief than is really required.
So what do I do know? I'm getting no help from local services, or from the hospial in finding a place - this entire task is down to me. I don't know whether to headbutt someone, or just headbutt a wall.
Dave
I'm trying to hold down a full-time job (having lost one last year and being £10K a year worse off) while doing all this unaided, as the hospital's fiorm suggestion is that she move nearer me (she's 100 miles away). As she'll be self-funding, I can only approach some local homes directly - the remainder are block booked by local Social Services, and while they might consider her for their allocation list, there's no guarantee she'll be reviewed or that I'll have any choice or say in which home. She's utterly set against the whole idea anyway, and I fail to see how dumping her just anyway is going to help anyone. And I can see my inheritance being peed up the wall (pardon my French) in more grief than is really required.
So what do I do know? I'm getting no help from local services, or from the hospial in finding a place - this entire task is down to me. I don't know whether to headbutt someone, or just headbutt a wall.
Dave