Hello I wasn’t sure where to post this message. I hope this is the right place. My father in law, David, has dementia and the family are struggling to deal with the situation. My husband seems to be sticking his head in the sand and hoping it will all go away…I don’t mean that in a nasty way…..it’s just his way of dealing with it I think. My husband’s sister is also having to look after her husband who has advanced stages of lung cancer and my husband’s mum is an elderly lady herself and is managing the best she can. David spent most of Christmas day sat on the stairs at home trying on various shoes…taking them off…putting them back on…repeat. He did not want to be moved and got very upset when we tried to move him. Each time we see him he seems to be getting worse to the point I do sometimes think he really does not know who we are. I just need some help to understand what the options are in relation to home care. Currently I think they get a couple of hours once a week. That was all they were told they could have. Do you think this could be reassessed now he has worsened? Also does anyone have any experience of what are the hourly rates would be if the family decided to club together and pay for some home care/help privately? Thank you for any advice you can give.