You may find this case slightly unusual. Most posts here seem to be about the difficulties in giving help to people with dementia, but that's not the case here. My FIL is in a care home where he is getting the best of care. He does not have dementia but he is an invalid due to a stroke. He requires 24x7 nursing care and is fed via a tube. Everyone is happy with the care home except the MIL. She wants him home (back at her flat). She has dementia but the authorities do not recognise this. The care home say that her will shall prevail as the next of kin. She cannot look after herself, let alone him, but she refuses to recognise this. She takes denial to a whole new level. It looks like the care home will comply with her wish. What can we do? The care home refuse to act against her wishes, as expressed by my wife and her brother and sisters. The MILs dementia and frailty could easily be the cause of his death if she gets him back to the flat. We are at our wits end.