I think you have summed up a great deal in a nut shell, Catey. I reached the same conclusion about a year ago and nothing I've seen has changed my mind. What to do? Keep looking on the CSCI website for reports of other homes in your area. Join a local AS or carers group to see if anyone can recommend anywhere. Ask via TP for members in your area to PM you with suggestions about homes they are happy with. (Unless the rules have changed and it's now OK to recommend places openly). It's a rather fraught thing to do though as the care staff can change, the management can change etc and I think it's hard to recommend a place and be certain that it won't change in some way by the time another resident reaches it. Don't necessarily be put off by modest furnishings. The care staff and atmosphere may make up for the lack of showiness. Maybe ask if you can visit on a day when the residents are involved in an activity. Don't give up.