Just got back from a little holiday which was fabulous and a little escape from everything for a while.
However, have got back to find mum considerably worse - I can't believe how much worse given that I was only away a week.
Although mum hasn't been able to talk for a while now she would at least look at you when you talked to her. However now she doesn't seem to be connecting in anyway with anyone - you may as well just not be there. It's like she's totally zoned out. She completely ignored the vicar yesterday even though she was talking directly to her - she didn't even look at her.
She's also increasingly aggitated and aggressive - of course we have no idea what is upsetting her as she can't tell us.
Before I went away I arranged for mum's antidepressants to be increased as I could see her aggressiveness was increasing again but she won't take them because they look different to her usual ones. Dad has now taken to crushing up an extra one and putting it in her food/drink!!
She can't tell the time/day anymore and seems to be losing her social graces for want of another expression - she tossed some rubbish into a flower bed without any shame and dad said after they'd walked my dog she'd thrown the poo bag into someone's hedge - dad had to retrieve it!
We've had no contact from the consultant and no contact from Social Services for the carer's assessment (that I've had to refer because the GP and consultant couldn't agree on who should do it) and I feel like we've come to a griding halt.
Also can I ask what these "scores" are that people talk about? Should mum have had one of those? What the hell is going on?????
Sorry needed to get that out.
Any and all advice would be appreciated as I just don't know what to do anymore. Mum's age and the fact that she has FTD seems to be a huge sticking point in getting anything done or in anyone knowing what they should do.
However, have got back to find mum considerably worse - I can't believe how much worse given that I was only away a week.
Although mum hasn't been able to talk for a while now she would at least look at you when you talked to her. However now she doesn't seem to be connecting in anyway with anyone - you may as well just not be there. It's like she's totally zoned out. She completely ignored the vicar yesterday even though she was talking directly to her - she didn't even look at her.
She's also increasingly aggitated and aggressive - of course we have no idea what is upsetting her as she can't tell us.
Before I went away I arranged for mum's antidepressants to be increased as I could see her aggressiveness was increasing again but she won't take them because they look different to her usual ones. Dad has now taken to crushing up an extra one and putting it in her food/drink!!
She can't tell the time/day anymore and seems to be losing her social graces for want of another expression - she tossed some rubbish into a flower bed without any shame and dad said after they'd walked my dog she'd thrown the poo bag into someone's hedge - dad had to retrieve it!
We've had no contact from the consultant and no contact from Social Services for the carer's assessment (that I've had to refer because the GP and consultant couldn't agree on who should do it) and I feel like we've come to a griding halt.
Also can I ask what these "scores" are that people talk about? Should mum have had one of those? What the hell is going on?????
Sorry needed to get that out.
Any and all advice would be appreciated as I just don't know what to do anymore. Mum's age and the fact that she has FTD seems to be a huge sticking point in getting anything done or in anyone knowing what they should do.