1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. nirinjan

    nirinjan Registered User

    Apr 1, 2015
    3
    I know a 21 year old who's dad has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's ( I think he is going for more tests next week). There is nobody else in the family in a position to care for him. She does not know what to do and she feels alone a too young. What is the best thing for her to do now? Who can she talk to?
     
  2. Redpoppy

    Redpoppy Registered User

    Jul 31, 2012
    268
    Glamorgan s.wales
    Somebody more knowledgable than I, will reply to your post shortly with advice for this young person.I have found answers to many of my problems here on talking point,and hope she finds and gets all the support she will be needing.Such a responsibility for one so young.
     
  3. nirinjan

    nirinjan Registered User

    Apr 1, 2015
    3
    thanks

    You are right, a big responsibility am sure there must be loads of support
     
  4. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,439
    Hmm. She (and you) do understand that while she may want to care for him, she doesn't have to? That is, no adult can be forced to care for another person. I think I would be encouraging her to get social services involved in order to provide necessary care: I would have been horrified if a child of mine had to care for me at this age (not too delighted if they had to care for me even if older, tbh.).
     
  5. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    2,482
    Radcliffe on Trent
    Me too Jennifer. I think this young lady needs advice and support to put the right care in place for her dad, but nobody, least of all herself, should expect her to take it on personally. I don't believe her dad would want that either.
     
  6. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    I suggest she telephones the local Alzheimer's Society - the local branch can be found here (not to worry if they seem a distance away as they tend to cover wide areas).
    http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/scripts/documents.php?categoryID=200121

    Some of the branches have Dementia Support Workers and if one could get to know this gentleman and his daughter, she may well find the local advice she needs. She should also keep her own GP aware of the problems she has along with the Mental Health Consultant and of course, Social Services.

    I also suggest that this person does not accept that she has to do all the practical caring. For this she will probably have to accept that SS will need to do an assessment (both sufferer and carer are eligible for these). She may also have to accept a financial assessment which would cover just her father's financial situation.
    The factsheet explains.
    http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/scripts/documents_info.php?documentID=131

    She should also seriously consider getting POA for her Father unless he has already done this. Although this is not easy it will be invaluable when her Father is less able to deal with his own affairs.

    I hope that helps. Best wishes
     
  7. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,498
    Female
    England
    The fact that the young lady is still in education is another reason why full care should not be on her shoulders.

    Lots of good advice as where to source help has been given and we can't forget that very personal care comes into caring and a young girl should not be expected to carry out this care for her Father should he need it.

    She can certainly help him and support him but not take responsibility for everything.
     
  8. nirinjan

    nirinjan Registered User

    Apr 1, 2015
    3
    thanks

    Thank you everyone, I will pass on this useful advice.
     

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