Sorry, I haven't posted on TP for many months!
Mum has had vascular dementia for about 4 years now and has been deteriorating more rapidly of late. She had been living at home with my older brother but he got married two weeks ago and now can only visit her a few times a day. we've been waiting for a long time for a residential place in a locked door facility for her (as she goes out walking constantly!)
Finally the move is this weekend! I'm filled with mixed emotions: relief because I know she'll be safe and well looked after and have company, but also sad as I know it must be terrible for her to leave her home where she and dad raised us . I do feel guilty too but thats more because of my increasing inability to cope with her behaviour. She can't help how she behaves but I can and don't very well!
So has anyone any tips to make it easier for her and my brother and I?
We brought her out to see the home a few days ago, showed her the room, put pictures up and them encouraged her to say hello to a few lady residents. they have a piano in the conservatory and she can play a bit, so I got her to try a few hymns. She managed to get a few of the residents singing to the tunes so we were encouraged by that!
but saturday will be different as she won't be coming home with us! we plan to arrive just after lunch time and stay until she goes for her dinner in the evening and then leave while she's distracted? Is this a good idea?
It would be nice to get pointers!
Cheers Ann
Mum has had vascular dementia for about 4 years now and has been deteriorating more rapidly of late. She had been living at home with my older brother but he got married two weeks ago and now can only visit her a few times a day. we've been waiting for a long time for a residential place in a locked door facility for her (as she goes out walking constantly!)
Finally the move is this weekend! I'm filled with mixed emotions: relief because I know she'll be safe and well looked after and have company, but also sad as I know it must be terrible for her to leave her home where she and dad raised us . I do feel guilty too but thats more because of my increasing inability to cope with her behaviour. She can't help how she behaves but I can and don't very well!
So has anyone any tips to make it easier for her and my brother and I?
We brought her out to see the home a few days ago, showed her the room, put pictures up and them encouraged her to say hello to a few lady residents. they have a piano in the conservatory and she can play a bit, so I got her to try a few hymns. She managed to get a few of the residents singing to the tunes so we were encouraged by that!
but saturday will be different as she won't be coming home with us! we plan to arrive just after lunch time and stay until she goes for her dinner in the evening and then leave while she's distracted? Is this a good idea?
It would be nice to get pointers!
Cheers Ann