My mum was diagnosed with AZ about 6 years ago now. She turns 65 this month so it was early onset. My dad has been her full time 24/7 carer for her during these 6 years. It has taken a major toll on him but I cannot get him to take a break. He has said to me that if things keep going like this he will be gone in 2 years. This has scared me greatly. He and I don't believe she is ready for a home yet although many relatives think she is. I would like to get her to go to Day Care a few days a week for 2 reasons. 1 - so she is kept suitably occupied for the day and 2 - so Dad can have a bit of a break. Even if its only so he can potter in his garden again. He believes she is okish during the day and can cope although he can no longer hold a conversation and she can't understand if you try to explain anything to her. The evenings are the hardest when she wants to "go home" and gets in bad form and gives out (viciously at times). She does, if left alone, work through this herself and comes back and apologises, snoozes on the couch and then wakes up happy ish again. Does anybody who has been though the stages of should they send their loved one to Day Care or not questions have any advice for me to persuade my Dad with because I cannot afford to lose him and if I do then the only option I have is a care home for my mum as I work full time.