Mum has a long standing friend called Edna who lives about a half hours drive away. They have known each other for more than 60 years and used to be next door neighbours. I think they lost touch for a while, but always sent Christmas cards etc, so knew where each other was. Since Dad died and Mum moved back to Northants they have been in regular touch, phoning each other several times a week for a natter, and Mum used to go on the bus to see Edna at least 2 or three times a year. Since Mum has been unable to manage the bus ride, we have taken her over once or twice. Nevertheless, until very recently they were still in regular contact almost every day. Edna also has mild dementia and it was quite amusing to listen to the conversation repeated again and again as they both forgot what they'd talked about previously. Anyway, the point of this story is that we've been at Mum's now for a month and there has been no phone call from Edna, and neither has Mum phoned her. We've mentioned it a few times, and actually got Mum to call once, but there was no reply, and she seems reluctant to call again. In times past she would have normally been really worried, but now she doesn't seem to care. Now, I have Edna's son and DIL's phone number - do I phone and find out if she's ok, (I'm concerned too!) or do I leave well alone? I've just got this funny feeling that perhaps Mum doesn't want to phone because she's afraid of what she mind find out.