I’ve not been on TP for some time now, I’m struggling a bit more these days with my husband.
I’d like to ask others opinions on the following…
As my husband is becoming LESS able to use the CD player, Radio, DVD player
(he cannot use these AT ALL now) he is ‘stopping me’ from using these as well.
He is already getting more aggressive than before (we still have good and bad days), but on the whole aggressive most days….
How can I get round these issues? If I try and use these ‘things’ he just gets angry.
We have a small CD player in the kitchen, which he may or may not allow me to use on the day, it depends how he is feeling…. BUT he comes out to the kitchen and gets angry with me for disturbing him with the CD player (on low). This gets stopped on some days as well. (He pulls the plug out of the wall, as he does not know how to turn of the CD player).
I KNOW its AZ, NOT him, but how can I lead a ‘normal life’ when he is stopping me from doing so?
Spoken to CPN and Psychologist and all they say is for me to stay safe FIRST, and if that means ‘giving up’ certain things then I’ll HAVE to do it. No ability to ‘reason’ for SUCH a long time now. It’s getting far worse.
Also he does not like me to use the phone …. Believes I am ‘up to something’…
and the TV remotes are constantly being dropped thrown in temper as he can no longer use these either.
Has ANYONE got any ideas how my life can be made easier with these problems?
Recent assessment says he needs 24 hour care now. Managed to get a couple of extra hours from SS, to give me a break in the week, but feel like I need more on some days.
Hope you can offer some kind of advice?
Take Care
DaisyG
I’d like to ask others opinions on the following…
As my husband is becoming LESS able to use the CD player, Radio, DVD player
(he cannot use these AT ALL now) he is ‘stopping me’ from using these as well.
He is already getting more aggressive than before (we still have good and bad days), but on the whole aggressive most days….
How can I get round these issues? If I try and use these ‘things’ he just gets angry.
We have a small CD player in the kitchen, which he may or may not allow me to use on the day, it depends how he is feeling…. BUT he comes out to the kitchen and gets angry with me for disturbing him with the CD player (on low). This gets stopped on some days as well. (He pulls the plug out of the wall, as he does not know how to turn of the CD player).
I KNOW its AZ, NOT him, but how can I lead a ‘normal life’ when he is stopping me from doing so?
Spoken to CPN and Psychologist and all they say is for me to stay safe FIRST, and if that means ‘giving up’ certain things then I’ll HAVE to do it. No ability to ‘reason’ for SUCH a long time now. It’s getting far worse.
Also he does not like me to use the phone …. Believes I am ‘up to something’…
and the TV remotes are constantly being dropped thrown in temper as he can no longer use these either.
Has ANYONE got any ideas how my life can be made easier with these problems?
Recent assessment says he needs 24 hour care now. Managed to get a couple of extra hours from SS, to give me a break in the week, but feel like I need more on some days.
Hope you can offer some kind of advice?
Take Care
DaisyG