My Dad has had Alzheimer's for 4 years and is in a home but now my mom is dying from lung cancer she is in a hospice which is a lovely place but only has a short time left, I have taken dad to see her, but he didn't understand how bad she is and kept repeating the same questions, "what's wrong", how are you" and "how long are you going to be here", It got me thinking about the funeral and if I should take dad to it or not, it is my decision as I am the only sibling left my brother passed away 8 years ago next month from renal cancer. my gut instinct is not to take him as it will distress not only him but also me and my partner, I have all but decided to tell mom has passed away only once as it seems cruel to keep on telling him, I would appreciate any thought or advice