Dear fellow travellers,
Wanted to say hello again and hope you’re not too bad these strange times.
Brief background- MIL undiagnosed dementia symptoms, brain haemorrhage 20+ years ago. Had issues since then. Three weeks ago diagnosed jaundice with matastatic cancer 3 weeks ago. We can’t get home to the U.K. and shes at home with granddaughters and daughter. Looking after her . My husband has always had a difficult relationship with his mum. She been always critical, rude, nasty and said to him at 14 yrs she never wanted him. He’s made peace with the fact she’s dying. We’ve spoken to her via zoom and clearly she’s lost weight, very poorly. She’s on the last leg now and we’re going to speak to her tonight .She catheterised and sleeping a lot and greyish etc.
My problem is that my mum died 18 months from dementia ago and I couldn’t get home to be with her or speak to he at the end . I think I’m trying to compensate with my MI L. I worry a lot about this now and wish I could help the family. I’m struggling. Hubby seems not too bothered.
Sorry for the ramble. Any advice.? I probably won’t get home to the chapel of rest or funeral.
Thanks for listening.x
Wanted to say hello again and hope you’re not too bad these strange times.
Brief background- MIL undiagnosed dementia symptoms, brain haemorrhage 20+ years ago. Had issues since then. Three weeks ago diagnosed jaundice with matastatic cancer 3 weeks ago. We can’t get home to the U.K. and shes at home with granddaughters and daughter. Looking after her . My husband has always had a difficult relationship with his mum. She been always critical, rude, nasty and said to him at 14 yrs she never wanted him. He’s made peace with the fact she’s dying. We’ve spoken to her via zoom and clearly she’s lost weight, very poorly. She’s on the last leg now and we’re going to speak to her tonight .She catheterised and sleeping a lot and greyish etc.
My problem is that my mum died 18 months from dementia ago and I couldn’t get home to be with her or speak to he at the end . I think I’m trying to compensate with my MI L. I worry a lot about this now and wish I could help the family. I’m struggling. Hubby seems not too bothered.
Sorry for the ramble. Any advice.? I probably won’t get home to the chapel of rest or funeral.
Thanks for listening.x