Hi there,
I've been hanging around and soaking up all the support and advice given out on this wonderful forum, I have even asked a couple of questions but not for a while now - I would really appreciate some advice on a very difficult situation.
Just to give you a bit of background - My Mother In Law was diagnosed with Alzheimers nearly two years ago, she has been taking Aricept since March and is responding well to it. She's still driving and doing a lot around the home. My father in law has mobility problems and suffers from depression and has found the diagnosis hard to deal with. He often cannot leave his bed because he is so down and MIL spends lots of time around the house on her own. My husband and I go there every day to make sure they have both taken their pills and to support them emotionally, but with two young children and jobs to hold down, we can't be there all the time.
Recently I arrived at 4 in the afternoon after the school run and MIL was falling down drunk. She was slurring her words and not making any sense. At first I was concerned it was a stroke but FIL said she had been drinking gin. Another time my husband found her face down in the front garden, very drunk. There are bottles of wine, port and spirits hidden all round the house, which we currently try to find and dispose of. But everything we throw away is replaced the next day. MIL's reaction to all this is denial and anger. Even when she was slurring her words and falling down, she was denying that she had been drinking to me. She's very independent and fiesty and doesn't really want any help from us, although she is getting lots already. We are also trying to relieve her boredom by taking her out more with us, so that she's not in the house to do the drinking but we can't be there all the time.
Are we right to be trying to stop the drinking? It seems to me that this situation is going to end badly for them, with an alcohol related accident.
What more can we do? Does anyone have any ideas?
Thanks
Janet
I've been hanging around and soaking up all the support and advice given out on this wonderful forum, I have even asked a couple of questions but not for a while now - I would really appreciate some advice on a very difficult situation.
Just to give you a bit of background - My Mother In Law was diagnosed with Alzheimers nearly two years ago, she has been taking Aricept since March and is responding well to it. She's still driving and doing a lot around the home. My father in law has mobility problems and suffers from depression and has found the diagnosis hard to deal with. He often cannot leave his bed because he is so down and MIL spends lots of time around the house on her own. My husband and I go there every day to make sure they have both taken their pills and to support them emotionally, but with two young children and jobs to hold down, we can't be there all the time.
Recently I arrived at 4 in the afternoon after the school run and MIL was falling down drunk. She was slurring her words and not making any sense. At first I was concerned it was a stroke but FIL said she had been drinking gin. Another time my husband found her face down in the front garden, very drunk. There are bottles of wine, port and spirits hidden all round the house, which we currently try to find and dispose of. But everything we throw away is replaced the next day. MIL's reaction to all this is denial and anger. Even when she was slurring her words and falling down, she was denying that she had been drinking to me. She's very independent and fiesty and doesn't really want any help from us, although she is getting lots already. We are also trying to relieve her boredom by taking her out more with us, so that she's not in the house to do the drinking but we can't be there all the time.
Are we right to be trying to stop the drinking? It seems to me that this situation is going to end badly for them, with an alcohol related accident.
What more can we do? Does anyone have any ideas?
Thanks
Janet