Last week I posted how I was feeling a little overwhelmed with how things were going to change - yet today I am doing the MIL's shopping (PWD) and my OH and I were discussing in the middle of the shop what the MIL likes but more to the point what she can "see". Its not a packet of biscuits, its whats in the packet that I meant - so we bought some high protein bars with see through packets - I took these out of the box and into her cupboard of "goodies" so she can "see" them. So yes we are "adapting" very quickly, also the last few weeks I have suggested to the MIL to change her clothes, have a shower and today I did the same but I stayed with her on the pretence of stroking the cat to make sure she got her clothes out for tomorrow, its my cat but she has adopted it she lives with us and the cat loves the attention - such a tart!) Anyway I could see her go to her cupboard to get out some clothes for tomorrow and she stopped - and I knew having read things on this forum that doors are an issue - she has 3 sets of doors to choose from! So I went and opened the door of one cupboard and suggested clothes for the next day - surprisingly to me she went to her underwear draw and she said and "I am keeping these for when I have to go into the home in a bit when you go on holiday". This is relating to going into respite care next month which we have not said anything about since the SW came about a month ago. I said to the MIL, well its someone else that will be telling you what to do instead of me annoying you when you go to help us to have a holiday, trying to make light of things for her - I know she said I am not looking forward to it but at least I know I will be coming back home and you will be here again. I nearly tripped over my halo on the way out! PS for those who have read about the sausage rolls in her cupboard - they have been removed under duress!