'Active' equals other difficulties/problems, I know, but I would so like to be able to do active things. TV is usually/often rubbish but certain things animate like animal progs. Worst I find is constant questioning or bringing up irrelevant topic at part of prog where I want to concentrate. Also when you point something out, because cognitive processes slow and sight rock bottom, then thinks it's another person sometimes being not even right sex when Program has moved on.
I shouldn't complain as today is so good and as afternoon the tv was on constantly being watched with closed eyes quite a lot. Edinburgh tattoo is accepted at mo although have been asked if I like it so don't know how long till it's noise. Have got quick reads from library to see if enjoyed when being read to.
Also find vasc. Dem so hard to comprehend as what presents can be so diverse in 'ability'.I believe it is due to path neural connections make. Sometimes I wonder whether it is to do with how congested arteries are and how much oxygen therefore reaches brain. Therefore I'm so careful with diet to ensure that what there is is maintained for as long as possible and try to hide pulses in food whenever pos to help mop up cholesterol.
My mother plays solitaire on my desktop computer. When in hospital she plays word find, I buy the books from newsagencys. Bevpet Perth WEST AustMy dad is physically active . He does hoovering. Ironing. I give him brass to clean, but he is continually asking me for things to do. Any ideas of things he can sit and do? Models and jigsaws no good. Something productive. He moans he is bored all the time.
Would he enjoy taking things to bits e.g old radios; or sanding furniture e.g wood coffee tables or stools; or building meccano sets?My dad is physically active . He does hoovering. Ironing. I give him brass to clean, but he is continually asking me for things to do. Any ideas of things he can sit and do? Models and jigsaws no good. Something productive. He moans he is bored all the time.
Thank you a Chook. It is horrible having to hear or see things you would never want to. You wonder where the world as you knew it is going don't you. It changes minute to minute some days.It's so hard isn't it. Mum doesn't live with me but I'm constantly trying to think of activities for her to do when I'm not there. She tells me she's so bored but wont do anything I leave for her. (I see her every day).
She mainly like's watching DVDs and listening to music. We also bought her a budgie which she'll talk to for hours.
I'm sorry that you dad think's that you have a special relationship. I thought I had it tough because mum keeps getting naked in front of me and wont shut the door when doing a poo! That must really make you shudder! Well done for keeping so strong. Just remember it's not him, it's the illness.
He would like doing things with wood, but he suffers with arthritis in his hands. As do I. Sanding no good for that. I do get him to polish furniture tho !Would he enjoy taking things to bits e.g old radios; or sanding furniture e.g wood coffee tables or stools; or building meccano sets?
YES!!! AN exhausting and frazzling thing - the constant request for activities, and being cross about being bored when you have just done this and that and been out to here and there, and would like your head to yourself for a while... (and I am only at my Mum's some of the time)Mum living with me is always asking"what can I do now" I find her little jobs to do around the house: polishing, mopping floor and sometimes tidying and cleaning kitchen cupboards, but the problem is she wants me to do all these things with her or does not comlete and I have to finish things. She did sort out all my books in order, but I had to put them back on shelves, but theres only so much and I've never had such a busy life! My brother has to deal with the spouse thing and it is without doubt the most uncomfortable part of dementia.
That sounds really really hard. I hope you have some help so that you have quite a bit of time away from your Mum.Not to make light of your problems, but I'm envious that you are looking for activities for your 92 year old dad, with dementia! My mam is only 75 and is way beyond being able to entertain herself with any useful (or even non-useful) activity now.
All she does is pace around the house, pulling furniture out, de-making the bed, picking things up and putting them in odd places, and has a fascination with cushions and other soft furnishings. Over and over, hour after hour.
Oh how I'd love it if she could do a bit of dusting, polishing, hoovering, tidying, anything. It would be lovely to see her doing something like that, especially as she was so very houseproud in the past and everything was always immaculate.
I know you have your own set of difficulties and I'm not trivialising them, honestly, but oh I do wish ...
Thanks Mannie, great suggestions. I have never heard of the Dementia Directory. Is it on paper or on line please ?If he was a DIY-er:
Does he have a toolbox ? He could tidy it ? (you could untidy it beforehand as needed......). Sorting nails/screws etc.
Go to the library and pick some DIY manuals, they have lots of pictures...
A trip to the local DIY store to "buy some fixings"
A trip to a timber merchants or building suppliers
Tidying the shed
Tidying the garage
Winding the garden hose
Cleaning the garden tools with WD40
Sharpening the garden tools with carberundum
Painting the shed
Sanding and painting a window ledge
You can repeat such activities since they will be quickly forgotten. You can do the activities in easy stages, which will stretch them out.
Ask the local football/rugby club/indoor bowls whether they have volunteers who will take your dad to a match, my uncle does that.
Ask the local council for their "Dementia Directory" it will contain lists where you can find your dad a buddy to facilitate such activities