Thank-you Tender face for clearing that up & expressing it that way that was the wave length of thinking I was referring to when referring to my mother child like .
I know my mother is not a child & has had a past ,
Brucie
Don't forget that we are looking at them, trying to understand. We have to try and put their behaviour in terms that we can understand. To them their behaviour may seem totally normal and it is we who are weird to them.
Yes so for me to understand my mother how I perceive it how it help me, I compare it to child like behaviour ,so enabling me to cope with any given situation that arises, all people with AD have a mental illness , if not & my mother could make her own choices I would not have been given E POA ? .
lila13 Lots of people say that, you are the parent now and she's the child, but a child doesn't have the power an elderly person has. E.g. she can decide whether she'll attend a hospital appointment, and whom she will let and not let into her home.
An elderly person & an elderly person with AD is to different situation.
An elderly person can be left in there own home & not worry that they will leave the gas on or over boil the eggs & set fire to the house.
A person with AD can be a danger to them self’s & those around, them that is why they can be section under the mental heath act ,if no one is supervising them & left to there own device ,but them is your way of thinking are you saying they have a choice ? To be left alone full time with no supervision
An elderly person with out AD can not be section
If I had left my mother to her own device , not taken control of her medication for diabetic she would have been dead by now or in a mental home, my mother was so lost in her reality of her own mind of AD ,yes like Bruce says she thought I must have been *wired *because I could not enter in to her reality ,her confusion made her get angry & violent with me ,I had to stand back & look at the situation from out side the box , this was not the relationship I was brought up with ,with my mother from childhood ,my mother was leaning crying with anger for my help ,do I give her anger back ,would I do that with my own child ? To an adult in the street,( well an adult in the street is not my family ) she herself could not understand what was happening ,we all have different journey with are love one , I pick the best skills I new I had from being a mother & use them with respect & dignity towards my mother
lila13
When you say I agree. It is demeaning for an adult to be treated as a child yes I agree & I find it demeaning from you & Bruce in assuming that of me & Tender face sums it all up when she says is that it is a symptom of an underlying need which needs to be addressed , But understand how people perceive things in different ways ,so no hard feeling
Bets Glad to hear that With the medication things have improved with his heath , do you now sort all his medication out now ? what was your husband like with his medication before VD