Mum (Alz, 78) has been offered a room in our favourite care home. Problem is, it's a temporary place in the nursing section and Mum only needs residential or moderate dementia care. They offered to move her when a more suitable room becomes available. We are both suffering while Mum lives alone, a long way from me, so I'm tempted to move her just to get her into proper care. However, she won't like being in a hospital-like environment and the double move is only going to confuse her. On the other hand, it took about six months to get this far so I really hate to say no to this opportunity. What a dilemma!